You Can’t Please Everyone: The Power of Choosing Your Own Health Over Others’ Opinions

It’s funny how, sometimes, the people closest to us can say things that stick with us longer than we’d like.  I've certainly had my fair share of moments where I’ve been confronted with opinions that weren’t particularly uplifting or supportive of my choices especially when it comes to my health and body.  One that particularly stands out is when someone told me they liked the “thick” me better.  

It wasn't just a throwaway comment.  It was said in a way that suggested I had somehow lost something by making healthier choices for myself.  And honestly, at first, it stung.  It made me question whether my journey towards health and wellness was actually a “loss” or a “gain.”  Was I making the wrong choice by prioritizing my health?  Was my body the wrong size, shape, or form?

But after reflecting on that comment, I realized something that I want to share with you all:  YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE.  I've experienced my share of eye rolls, unsolicited advice, and even judgment.  No matter what you do, there will always be people who feel the need to voice their opinions about how you look, what you eat, or how you choose to live.  But the most important thing is to choose what feels right for you, not anyone else.

The Journey of Change

When I decided to make changes to my diet and lifestyle, and become vegan, it wasn’t about trying to fit into a certain mold or meet society’s beauty standards.  It was about feeling better physically, mentally, and emotionally.  I started listening to my body, nourishing it with plant-based foods that gave me energy, clarity, and vitality.  I wasn't interested in fitting into the old version of myself that had once been “thicker” or “bigger” . I wanted to feel like the best version of me.

For a long time, I had dealt with feeling sluggish, bloated, and disconnected from my body.  So, when I started to feel more alive and vibrant with my new plant-based vegan choices, I knew I was on the right track.  But as I embraced this new lifestyle, I quickly learned that not everyone was as enthusiastic.  But I didn't expect the reaction that came from some people especially when I began to lose weight and lean out.  There were alot of questions, assumptions, and sometimes even dismissive comments.  

It was like some people were holding on to the version of me they were comfortable with, the “thick” me.  It wasn't necessarily about health, but more about comfort.  They saw my new body and new food choices and felt the need to say something, even if it wasn't entirely supportive or helpful.  “You look better when you’re thicker,” they’d say, or “You were more attractive before.” “Don't you miss cheese?”  “Where do you get your protein?” “I could never give up meat.”  

It was a harsh reminder that, no matter how much I changed my body for my own health, my choices wouldn’t always be received the way I hoped.  But here's the kicker:  I didn't need their approval to validate my decisions.  I had to remind myself that the changes I was making weren't about their comfort, they were about mine.  

Embracing the Power of My Own Health

What I've come to realize is that I've spent so much of my life trying to please others, whether it was trying to look a certain way, eat a certain way, or live up to some unspoken expectation.  But once I shifted my focus to what made ME feel good, I started to feel empowered in ways I had never experienced before.  

It wasn't just about the physical changes I was seeing.  It was about the mental clarity I had gained from feeling strong, nourished, and aligned with my true self.  It was about the confidence I built from choosing health over external opinions.  And that is something that no one can take away from me, or YOU.

Relating to You

If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know that you're not alone.  Many of us have been told, directly or indirectly, that we’re not “enough” because we’ve changed or made different choices.  Maybe it’s a family member who doesn't understand why you don't eat what they cook.  Or a friend who questions your commitment to a plant-based vegan lifestyle.  Or a partner who comments on your body in a way that makes you doubt yourself.

Here’s what I want you to remember:  YOUR HEALTH IS YOURS TO DEFINE.  It’s not defined by anyone else’s standards or opinions.  If you're making choices that make you feel better, more energized, and more aligned with your values, then you're on the right path.

You will encounter people who don't get it, and that's okay.  Not everyone will understand why you choose to prioritize your health over convenience, or why your body doesn't look like it used to.  But that's the beauty of this journey, it's yours.  It's about making the best decisions for you, even if they don't align with the people around you.

The Bottom Line:  Trust Yourself

In my own life, I've noticed that when I choose to honor my health, without worrying about the opinions of others, I feel more confident, more at peace, and more aligned with my true self.  The energy I once spent trying to please everyone else has now been redirected to the most important person in my life: me.  

Over time, I've learned to trust myself and the choices I'm making for my body.  No one else has the same connection to my health as I do, so why would I let their opinions sway me?  I've learned to take comments in stride, knowing that they don't define my worth or the validity of my choices.  

Choosing your own health, whether it's physical, mental, or emotional, is one of the most empowering things you can do.  It’s a declaration that your well-being matters more than conforming to anyone else’s idea of how you should look or how you should live.  So, the next time someone challenges your decision or tells you they like the “old” you, take a deep breath, smile, and remember that your health is worth far more than anyone else’s opinion.  Keep choosing what feels right for you because in the end, it's your well-being that matters most. 

In the end, your health is yours.  Own it, trust it, and let go of the pressure to please everyone.  You’ve got this!

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